Write to Nilima.
Age: 20-something
Requested by: Myself
Location: Ohio, USA
Issue: Mental Health
What’s going on? I have always struggled with making friendships ever since I was young, I used to be shy and have social anxiety. I have worked very hard to overcome those challenges with myself and I no longer have social anxiety. In fact, in my freshman and sophomore years, I made new friend groups (my dream was always to have a friend group to do fun things with like the girls I saw growing up) and enjoyed doing many fun activities with my girlfriends but I still felt I struggled to truly connect like they so easily did with each other. And in the end, both of those group friendships made me feel left out and not included in the end, like befriending other people and not including me anymore/other things that would be too long to mention. These events really hurt the little girl in me who grew up alone looking at others have fun with their friends and always felt like an option by ppl she found important in her life, to try so hard and still fail has left its mark on me. I’m in my Junior year now and I’m taking a break from trying to make new connections but I have been feeling so lonely and alone by myself these days.
What do you love most about this girl? I am someone who is deeply reflective, emotionally aware, and always striving for self-improvement. I value meaningful connections and have a caring, empathetic nature. Despite facing challenges and frustrations, I always get back up and try again. I embrace personal growth and am constantly working to be a better version of myself.
Anything else you want to tell us? I just hope to make friends one days that value me as much as I value them. I crave a connection and understanding that I have been seeking all my life and I hope I will make it one day.
