Anya Writing Team - October 2026
/Write to Anya.
Age: Teenager (16-20)
Requested by: Self
Location: Arizona, USA
Topic: Mental Health
What’s going on? I turned 20 on June 13th, and I need help with finding self-confidence, to help me know I’m not alone, and to find ways I can make myself feel better especially on my birthday when usually all of my friends are gone over the summer- for some reason the more I get older, it’s not been the same as when I was younger obviously, but I want to know how I can maybe feel less sad. Even though I know I’m loved and not alone, seeing most of my friends find someone to love and be in a relationship makes me feel like for me it will always be near impossible, especially if even though I thought I found someone good, it turns into too many situationships to count. I have lots of life ahead but always have felt more mature for my age and an old soul who just wants something genuine and real, with not a lot of guys to relate to my age and it sucks. It just feels like a lost cause already, and I love seeing others happy but always wonder if I’ll ever find my own in love without getting too caught up and blinded by who I hope someone is like, versus what they actually are like and not settling for less.
What do you love most about this girl? Some qualities I try to let shine more within myself, my kindness, compassion, generosity, empathy, loyalty, my sparkling energy and personality, always someone people can talk to, appreciating the small things in life, being able to know what i want to do in my future at this age, knowing my standards, my confidence i feel when with my friends and family, etc.
P.S. I can never tell if I’m just picky or have too high of standards, or if there hasn’t been anyone I’ve met that has met what I’ve always been looking for, but I just don’t know why dating in this generation or if it’s just Arizona that has been so challenging. It makes me feel like I’m doing something wrong even though it’s never been my fault, I just get worried my life won’t be what I’ve dreamed of as a little girl and it’s scary. Dating advice is appreciated, book recommendations, honestly open to anything for how long I’ve been working on myself now. What I always tell my friends and myself is that fact that I know I don’t need anyone, it just would be nice to have someone to do life with and I think that sentence makes a huge difference.
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